Anei tētahi pātai i puta mai i roto i taku pouaka mēra i ēnei rā tata nei. He raruraru noa tēnei mō te nuinga o ngā karapu pukapuka—ko The Dominator.
Me pēhea te whakahaere i tētahi mema e kaha ana ki te whakahaere i te kōrero pukapuka? He tangata kei a tātou e whakahaere ana i te kōrero. Ko te mea kino rawa atu, e wātea ana ia ki te wawahi i ētahi atu.
Koinei rawa atu te raruraru tino uaua e pā ana ki tētahi karapu pukapuka...ā, kāore he otinga ngāwari. Heoi anō, anei ētahi huarahi hei whakamātau māu:
1. Whakamahia he tohu motuhake. Tukua he mea—he manga, he kōhatu peita, he urunga iti rānei, hei tauira—huri noa i te rūma. Ko te mema anake e pupuri ana i te tohu ka taea te kōrero. Ko te hunga kāore e pupuri ana i te tohu kāore e taea te whakakore. Ka taea e koe te whakawhāiti i te maha o ngā wā ka taea e te tangata te pupuri i te tohu. (Kāore au i te pai ki te tikanga tohu, engari e kī ana ngā rōpū e whakamahi ana he pai.)
2. Whakawhāitihia te wā tuku kōrero. Whakamahia he taima hei whakawhāiti i ngā kōrero. Kaua tetahi e kōrero neke atu i te rua (2) meneti hei whakatuwheratanga—ā, kaua rawa e neke atu i te kotahi (1) meneti hei kōrero mō ngā whakaaro o tētahi atu. Ko te whāinga mō te katoa kia ako ki te kōrero poto kia whai wā ai te katoa ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou whakaaro.
3. Whakahaerehia te kōrero. Ka taea e te kaiārahi te whakauru atu me ngā kōrero pēnei i te, "Pai rawa atu, e Bill. Ngā mihi. Engari me tuku he wā ki ētahi atu" me te "Ka taea e mātou te whakarongo mai i tētahi atu?" me te "He aha ngā whakaaro o koutou katoa" me te "E Mary, kāore anō koe kia kōrero." Me whai kaiārahi hihiri, pūkenga hoki, hei neke i te kōrero mai i tētahi tangata ki tētahi atu, me te kore e tukua kia kotahi te tangata hei rangatira. Ehara i te mea ngāwari.
4. Ki te kore e angitu ngā mahi katoa… kia tika te kōrero.
• Tīmatahia he kōrero takitahi, kanohi ki te kanohi, mā te waea rānei—kaua rawa, mā te īmēra, mā te karere kuputuhi rānei. Kia mahara ki te whiriwhiri i tētahi tangata e māhorahora ana.
• He aha te mea hei kōrero? Whakamanahia te tangata he mema nui ia nō te karapu, engari ki ētahi kāore e rangona ō rātou whakaaro... ahakoa e maioha ana te rōpū ki ngā whakaaro o te tangata, he āhua anō kei te nui rawa te mahi. Me tono atu ki a ia kia hoatu he wā ki ētahi atu... kia kaua rānei e whakauru pinepine... kia whakawhāitihia rānei te roa o āna kōrero.
• Ko te āhuatanga kino rawa atu ko te tono atu ki te mema hara kia wehe atu i te rōpū. He mamae tēnei, engari he mea tika pea kia puta, kia pai ai te rōpū katoa. Ki te kore te raruraru e whakatauhia, ka tīmata pea ngā mema ki te wehe atu, ka kimi i ētahi atu rōpū. Me ata whakaaro atu—kia neke atu te mema.
He raruraru tēnei i roto i tō karapu? He whakaaro anō?